My 20's...


I was raised in the Jehovah Witness religion and becoming a mom to my baby girl Jazmin, and being a good wife was very important to that religion. 

My 20's were full of excitement at being a new mom, but something inside me said "this isn't the life I want." I knew it wasn't going to be easy, and I wasn't quite sure what life had instore for me, but I knew staying in that religion and being married was over, so I took my beautiful baby girl and left.

(I think I used a full can of AquaNet for my hair to stay up like that, oh my goodness!) 

Here comes my 30's.... 

A decade of love, career growth, and some unexpected twists and turns!

In the whirlwind of it all, I found myself walking down the aisle once again, convinced I had found the love of my life. Professionally, I delved into the dynamic world of the auto industry, carving out a successful path as a finance manager. It was exhilarating—I thrived in this fast-paced environment, showcasing my skills and passion.

Yet, amidst the highs of my career, my personal life was marred by the painful sting of infidelity. Despite investing 10 years of my heart and soul into my marriage, betrayal became an unwelcome companion. Eventually, I made the difficult decision to end this chapter of my life.

Reflecting back, I realize that this was a pivotal moment, one where I wish I had embarked on my personal development journey sooner. If only I had known then what I know now—perhaps things would have unfolded differently. (And yes, cue the "mom" jeans—I've definitely had my fair share of fashion choices that make me chuckle in hindsight!)

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40's Big Surprise Party...

Entering my 40s was a journey filled with unexpected detours and profound revelations. Instead of a lavish celebration, I found myself marking the milestone in a place I never imagined—a cell, sharing a humble Snickers candy bar with a fellow inmate. Yes, you read that correctly. My 40th birthday unfolded behind bars, a consequence of a past marred by embezzlement.

During the 20 months of my incarceration, the walls of the prison seemed to echo with the absence of my daughter's laughter and the bustling rhythm of society. It was undeniably the darkest chapter of my life. But amidst the solitude and regret, I came to a profound realization—I had been serving a sentence long before I ever stepped foot in that cell. I was confined by my own fears, doubts, and mistakes.

Yet, even in the depths of despair, there was a glimmer of hope. I emerged from that experience with a newfound clarity: my past does not define me. It is the person I choose to be today that truly matters. With this newfound perspective, I am determined to pay it forward, to extend a guiding hand to women who, like me, are seeking their second act in life.

My forthcoming book, 'How to Navigate Heartache, Healing, and Love After Divorce,' courageously explores the unvarnished truths of my personal odyssey, revealing the pitfalls and lessons learned during the grieving process. It doesn't just stop at introspection; it extends a guiding hand to readers, providing actionable insights and a pragmatic roadmap for navigating parallel challenges.

So here I stand, ready to embrace each day as an opportunity for growth, connection, and empowerment. My past may have shaped me, but it does not define me. Today, I am dedicated to helping women reclaim their strength, rewrite their stories, and step boldly into the next chapter of their lives.

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Who Signed Me Up For This At 50?

In my 50's I entered a First-triathlon almost as a dare from friends! Before this I didn't swim, bike, or run so I had to take lessons and it was a lot of hard work, but that's when the light bulb went off in my head to "Dare to Begin" and I knew in my heart if I could do this, then I could really help other woman over come fears too.

(These pictures speak for themselves who knew I could swim, bike, and run all in the same day and live to tell about it!

Why Not 

Beyond facilitating these empowering spaces, I wear multiple hats: as a dynamic speaker, a trusted forum leader, and the host of a podcast dedicated to candid conversations about women's issues. From navigating relationships to embracing self-care, we delve deep into topics that resonate with the modern woman, fostering a sense of connection and empowerment.

Witnessing the transformative ripple effect of my efforts brings me unparalleled joy and fulfillment. Every woman who embraces her strength, vitality, and self-worth is a testament to the power of community and personal commitment.

With unwavering dedication to your success,



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